Often times as businessmen, we come in contact with other business people, individuals from other companies, executives, and other influential people. Therefore, it is important to know how to approach individuals in a manner in which you come off being an outstanding, credible, honest, friendly, and nice person.

The following are 50 tips to help you succeed as an expert communicator:

1. Great posture, heads up look, smile, direct gaze

2. Don’t smile immediately. Pause, look into the other person, then smile.

3. With ladies: eyes on them. With guys: eyes slightly sticky.

4. Posture: door frame

5. Talk with people as with an old friend.

6. Don’t fidget.

7. Track listener’s reaction and plan what to say (tapping horse).

8. Visualize yourself before you act.

9. Match people’s moods for a moment

10. Meeting people? Wear a “whatz that?!”

11. Want to meet someone? Ask “who’s that” to someone you know.

12. Want to get into a conversation? Eavesdrop.

13. When asked “Where are you from?” provide facts or cool things about you.

14. Asked about job? Don’t give bare answers.

15. Revive a conversation by being a word detective.

16. Have the spotlight on the other person.

17. Parroting: repeat what the person said.

18. Talk about positive things in your life.

19. The latest news: don’t leave without it.

20. Don’t say: “What do you do?” Instead: “How do you spend most of your time?”

21. Don’t say: “I’m a web designer” Instead: “I help people create successful websites to promote their business.”

22. Nutshell Resume – different oral resume to different types of people.

23. Find synonyms for ordinary words: smart, nice, pretty, good

24. Instead of wonderful, say splendid, superb, extraordinary

25. When you have something in common with someone, the longer you don’t tell them that, the more moved they’ll be when you reveal it.

26. CommYOUnication: use “Can you”, “You’ll see”, “You look great”…focus on you, not me or I.

27. Don’t use the same smile to every person you come across; distinguish them.

28. Never make a joke at someone else’s expense.

29. When someone wants to persist on an unwelcome subject, simply repeat the same answer every time.

30. Don’t slobber over celebrities. If complimenting, complement very recent work.

31. Never say just “thank you”. Elaborate.

32. If you want to speak the language of a certain profession, ask a friend who speaks the lingo.

33. Before jumping into a conversation, find out that industry’s latest buzz.

34. Get deals made by talking like an insider.

35. Watch how people move. Copy them and you’ll be of the “same class”.

36. Echo nouns, verbs, adjectives to act like “an old friend”.

37. Evoke listener’s interests and weave images around it. With footballers, talk in “football lingo”.

38. Employ emphasizers : don’t say “uhuh”, instead use complete statements.

39. Anatomically correct empathizers: speak in the sense the person understands best. If they’re visual, use “visuary” words.

40. Use “we” instead of “you and me”

41. Have an “inside joke” – a special moment between you and the other person. Use it in conversations with that person.

42. Compliment people through the “grapevine” rather than directly.

43. Be a carrier pigeon (carry on good news).

44. Give a few comments in a conversation that praise the person subtly.

45. Echo the other persons words; how they say things.

46. Put in a few comments that pre-assure something positive about a person.

47. Sneak in a praise into your sentence.

48. Killer compliments: unique, quality. Say in private, be credible, say only 1-2 times a year.

49. Praise people the moment they do something good.

50. Boomerang comments you receive.

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